Supervision

Child rearing is a daunting thing to me. I find that a lot of people don't take it as seriously as I feel they should. I know people are think that I am in no place to talk as I have no children on my own (and let me tell you, this is not something that I want to change). But as I'm opinionated I am going to give my opinion on this.

Allow me to put this in layman's terms: supervision is the difference between a ten year old that is sexually active and one that is a virgin.

For some reason becoming an adult means that one forgets what it was to be a child. People forget just how quickly they could get into something the moment their parents were looking the opposite direction. We forget that as children there were opportunities to get are hands on drugs or alcohol or sexually graphic material. It's out there and readily available to just about everyone. You don't want to find out just how readily available by finding it in your child's possession.

People wonder why I avoid men with children. Besides the fact that I don't care for children, if you are raising children properly, there are serious changes that need to occur in your life. To accommodate a child one need to realize that things are no longer about them. A person needs hunker down and decide that they are second to the child that now needs them. One should integrate oneself into the life of the child not the other way around. I feel that it is something to be discussed with a spouse for years to come not something you jump head first into upon meeting someone. I won't date a man with kids because there aren't enough perks in a temporary relationship for me to make that kind of sacrifice. You have to be there. All the time. Supervision is key. Too many people are trying to live the same life they did before they became a parent and I feel that is wrong. Children change things. The life that was had before is over, dead. If you feel that isn't so, chances your child is being raised incorrectly.

It is because I harbor such strong feelings on this matter that I don't want children. I am way too into myself to focus on a child. Say what you will but at 24, being single and all, I feel that is a rational way to think. Those are my thoughts for now.